She is known as the rock ‘n roll psychic because she has so many musicians for clients, but to me, she’s an Aphrodite type; beautiful and intensely female. Her love of good food and pleasing things is evident, as is her need for calm and serenity. She tells me a little way into our conversation that she loves to work with women, particularly in order to help them to open their hearts, and navigate difficulties in relationships. That makes so much sense.
She is an empath, which means that she actually feels everything that others feel. She says if she is at a table with three people, and she tells them what she does for a living, two of them will present her with their issues, and the third will hate her. It can be difficult, especially since she actually feels what they are feeling. Consequently, she spends a lot of time alone or with animals, in order to balance the intensity of her experiences.
As a child she thought everyone was like that, absorbing and experiencing the pain and emotions of others, and it was only later that she realized she was different. She can see spirits, could do the “medium thing” but chooses not to. Now, she can hear with her inner ear, and spirits talk to her, but she doesn’t see. She tells me about the previous week, sitting in the living room with her aunt. Her deceased grandmother came into the room as they were sitting there. Caren could hear her, and sense her presence, while her aunt suddenly shifted the conversation to a memory of her mother. That’s the distinction between her and everyone else. It makes me wonder how often we do that? How many times does someone pop into our heads, and it is because they’ve come for a visit? Caren says we all have access to that frequency, we’re just all at different levels.
Either way, Caren is not interested in bloody dead girls visiting her in the night. She had a talk with the powers that be and told them that if she was going to see the creepy stuff, she wanted nothing to do with it. The things that interest her have to do with deepening, and helping. People are locked up, and she is sometimes the key that helps them open, and that is what brings her joy and satisfaction.
At 21, she worked in one of the best department stores in Canada, dressing mannequins. Before long, she was advising coworkers about their love lives. They came back to her time and again, because she knew what their boyfriend or girlfriend was thinking even though she had never met them before. A line would form, and she found herself doing double duty as love doctor and dresser.
Love is a big one for me, and since it’s her specialty I figure I’ll ask her about soul mates. Yes, she definitely believes in them, but sees many women trying desperately to make someone into a soul mate when they just aren’t. The thing about soul mates, she says, is that they don’t necessarily make us happy. Sometimes they create more misery than anyone else. The way we think of them is wrong. They are our greatest teachers, because we are the most vulnerable with them, are seen in raw form, totally understood, but often it doesn’t work out. It isn’t meant to. We are learning something instead. She says the unbelievable thing about soul mates is that they will keep trying and trying to make the relationship work, in whatever form they can, because they just can’t let it go. Often people will settle down with a secondary soul mate, someone who causes less agitation. And sometimes again, there is a happy ending and a person does get to live out a life with their soul mate; it will just be extra intense living at that level all the time.
I ask about obsession. I feel a distinction needs to be made between a true soul connection, and a situation where people are playing out their pathologies all over each other. She says that there is a rule that states that you cannot have energy with someone without their participation. Sometimes it can transfer into dreams and you can live out a whole relationship in that world, but if you are experiencing a sense of connection with someone, it cannot be happening to you alone. That, she says, is impossible.
But I have experienced that myself, both ways; I have had huge crushes on people and had it one-sided, and the other way around too. There is a difference between having daddy issues and repeating traumas in an obsessive mentally unbalanced way, and feeling a strong connection in a healthy state. I maintain that sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference, and sometimes people get confused about the nature of their connection, but I think I understand what she is saying, and energetic exchange can take many forms.
Finally we get to the Law of Attraction. She asks me why I have a problem with it. When I explain that I take issue with the idea that people are always responsible for terrible illnesses, or accidents or even global catastrophes for that matter, she says she agrees with me totally. Sometimes those things are the result of our own negligence, and yet sometimes they are just contracted, and it’s karmic. I’m happy to say that so far in my investigations, this has been a common thread.
According to Caren, the law of attraction works in two ways. One, you have to know what you want. That is when a vision board can come in handy, but it’s unnecessary. Rather, you need a clear intention. The other, more complicated part, is getting rid of what she calls “resistance”. These are the stories we tell ourselves that keep us from getting what we want. I balk. Everyone has blockages and negative thoughts. Making a person responsible for every passing judgment and thought seems crazy to me.
She listens, then asks me what makes me so uncomfortable about the idea of getting what I want. It’s not that, I say, it’s the idea that you can just visualize it and it will come. You have to work to earn it. People who just get things easily don’t value them, and then it doesn’t mean anything, and those who decide they want something and then are unwilling to sweat for it are entitled and lazy (all things I was taught, by the way).
Uh huh, she says, and asks me if I can see how I’m setting myself up to have to work really hard because I tell myself that’s how it has to be? I pause. I think. Wait…I…make…my…own…life…hard?
Doh.
I have to laugh, because she has nailed me. This, more than anything else, sticks with me after we are done talking, and actually forces me into a somewhat uncomfortable self observation. But that is another post entirely. I get the sense that it is these types of breakthroughs that she is looking for, and that she really enjoys changing a perspective if it will benefit the person.
She even teaches, and in fact helped Christiana (see post: Interview with a Psychic) back when she was overwhelmed by her gift and needed some training. She says it’s rare to find someone who is actually serious about learning the available tools, but if a person does need help, she is happy to share the information she has taken so long to gather and distill into truth. The tarot has needed some reinterpreting, being that the booklets and definitions are sometimes hundreds of years old. She has put a lot of effort into making them relevant to our world. Also, being a clairvoyant takes discipline. You can’t go around filling your body with drugs and alcohol and expect to get anywhere. She has a regimen of healthy eating, warm baths, meditation and plenty of sleep that helps her to have the energy she needs and actually heightens her gift.
She once had a woman throw crystals at her, she was so enraged by the messages Caren was passing along. When I ask her how she reacted, she says she understood that what she had told the woman had hit too close to home; she understood her pain, and just dodged the rock.
Caren is a highly successful Clairvoyant.Her passion for the human heart has led to a lifelong focus on healing other’s hearts. By combining compassion, Intuition,Astrological profiling & years of metaphysical study; Caren counsels her clients on future opportunities, as well as, how to move peacefully through current concerns.She is known for her positive approach to her sessions, while providing honest and accurate guidance.She has been featured on various television and radio programs including a feature on HBO. She has spoken with thousands of spiritual people on their paths. She is known as the Rock n Roll Psychic because she has read for many famous musicians.Clientele include San Diego Zoo/ NY Yankees/ La Jolla Country Club/ 92.5Fm radio/ Hollywood Actors/Writers/Directors Grammy Musicians/ Washington Politicians/ San Diego Chargers/ Doctors/Lawyers Famous Clothing Designers/ Healers /Psychologists HBO television.. Caren is currently accepting phone sessions by appointment basis only at carenshery@hotmail.com
Through the Looking Glass 